Key Takeaways

• Neurodiversity recognizes the different ways in which people's brains function.

• By embracing neurodiversity, you can enhance your child's mental health and self-esteem.

• Early diagnosis and intervention can help your child address their challenges while embracing their strengths.

Parenting a neurodivergent child is challenging. Between the stress and worry, it may seem like there is little time for anything else.

By understanding how to work with your child, you can help them gain confidence and thrive.

What does it mean to be neurodivergent? 

Sociologist Judy Singer first coined the term "neurodivergence" to describe the vast differences in how people's brains work.

Neurodivergent children experience various challenges, including learning disabilities, medical disorders, and other conditions. They also possess unique strengths. They perceive and process information differently from neurotypical children do.

Conditions that are considered neurodivergent 

Neurodivergence is an umbrella term and includes different conditions, such as:

• Tourette syndrome

• Autism

• Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder

• Learning disabilities

• Down syndrome

• Sensory processing disorders

In some cases, a neurodivergent child may also have co-occurring conditions, such as ADHD and autism.

Needs for neurodivergent children

Three areas where neurodivergent children frequently need support are social challenges, behavioral issues, and executive functioning.

In many cases, neurodivergent children require specialized accommodations to help them succeed in different aspects of life.

For example, they may need noise-canceling headphones in the classroom and more opportunities for movement. At home, they may need a safe area they can use whenever they become overwhelmed. 

Recognizing strengths and challenges 

Neurodivergent children process information differently than their peers, impacting their emotions, sensory responses, and reactions to changes.

In addition, it is also essential to recognize their strengths. They may excel in problem-solving, memorization, or creativity. Celebrating their achievements can enhance their confidence and motivation to succeed.

Early support and intervention 

Early diagnosis, therapy, and intervention can help your child develop the skills necessary for greater independence.

These interventions include occupational therapy, speech therapy, and naturalistic developmental behavioral intervention.

Effective parenting strategies for neurodivergent children

Neurodivergence refers to a vast range of abilities, thought patterns, and emotions. Therefore, there is no single set of tips for parenting a neurodivergent child. However, there are some guidelines you can use to create effective strategies that will benefit your child's well-being.

Creating a supportive home environment

Neurodivergent children thrive with structure and predictability. To help them understand transitions and expectations, establish consistent daily routines. Visual supports like schedules and timers can also help. 

Neurodivergent children can become easily overwhelmed, so create a sensory-friendly space where your child can spend time whenever needed. Incorporate calming elements like weighted blankets, soothing toys, and soft lighting. 

Use alternative communication methods

Alternative communication methods can help your child express their needs and ideas at school and at home. These methods include:

• Picture exchange communication system - Pictures representing words or concepts can help nonverbal children communicate by choosing and exchanging images.

• Social stories - Short stories can help neurodivergent students navigate and understand social interactions.

• Sign language - Manual signs and hand gestures can represent words or concepts and help them express themselves.

• Technology-based alternative communication methods - Examples include speech-generating devices, tablet apps with AAC software, and communication boards- can also facilitate your child's ability to communicate. 

Encourage emotional regulation and social skills

Neurodivergent children frequently struggle with emotional regulation and socialization.

You can help by practicing calming strategies with your child, teaching emotional vocabulary, creating safe spaces, and validating their feelings. 

You can help them practice social skills through one-on-one coaching, which offers personalized attention focused on their strengths and deficiencies. Small groups (such as specialized daycares) can also provide them with the opportunity to make friends.

Treatments and therapies for neurodivergent children

Since neurodivergence encompasses a variety of diagnoses, treatments for neurodivergent children differ based on the specifics of your child's condition. Some of the most effective treatments include:

• Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) Therapy - This approach teaches and reinforces desired behaviors while reducing challenging ones.

• Occupational Therapy - This form of therapy helps children cultivate skills necessary for activities of daily living.

• Speech and Language Therapy - Speech and language therapy strengthens communication skills, including language development and the use of alternative communication strategies.

• Physical Therapy - Physical therapy can improve balance, coordination and motor skills. 

In some situations, a combination of behavioral therapy and medication may improve your child's symptoms, allowing them to function more effectively.

Helping children navigate neurodivergence in school and social settings

Many neurodivergent children have difficulty communicating and interacting with others in an academic or social setting.

You can promote the development of social skills through structured play, role-playing, and modeling appropriate behavior and positive social interactions.

Advocating for your child at school

It's important to foster a collaborative approach with teachers and staff members at your child's school.

Meet with their teacher to discuss challenges and strengths and provide them with insight into your child's learning style and sensory sensitivities.

Don't wait for problems to arise before you intervene. You can set them up for a successful school year by requesting accommodations and modifications early.

Helping your child build friendships

Making friends can be challenging, especially for a neurodivergent child.

By helping them develop social skills and practicing them at home, you can help your child feel more comfortable in social situations.

Establish a routine of practicing greetings and engaging in back-and-forth conversations. You can also schedule playdates to allow them to practice their skills with other children and build friendships.

Finding support as a parent

As a parent of a neurodivergent child, it's normal to experience disappointment or frustration regarding their challenges.

Parent training can provide the support and knowledge necessary to help you manage your child's behavior and adjust your expectations.

Connecting with other parents & support groups 

Parenting neurodivergent children can be overwhelming. However, practicing self-compassion and seeking support from other parents in similar positions is important. You can do this by attending virtual and in-person support groups in your community. These groups can help you feel less isolated and allow you to share your tips and experiences with other parents of neurodivergent children.

Tips for avoiding burnout 

Just as you tend to your child's needs, you must also take time for yourself to avoid burnout. Exercise regularly, engage in your favorite hobbies and practice self-care. Professional counseling may also help you cope with the challenges and demands of raising a neurodivergent child.

Additional resources for parents and caregivers 

Navigating the numerous resources available for parents of neurodivergent children is often confusing. Here are a few resources that can offer additional information and support: 

• Star Institute - A resource for parents to learn about sensory processing.

• Understood.org - This resource offers parenting tips and additional information about neurodivergency.

• Therapist Neurodiversity Collective - This site offers free neurodiversity-affirming resources and information for parents and educators.

Your child's pediatrician may also provide you with a list of local resources available in your community.

Neurodivergent children live with unique challenges, especially as they navigate a world that isn't always sensitive to their needs.

A child therapist can provide a safe space for them to discuss their emotions and develop social and coping skills while embracing their unique differences. 

Emora Health can connect you with a child therapist who can empower your child and help them reach their full potential. Reach out today to get started with mental health support that will help your child thrive.

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